Food Language and Body Image

Body image and food can be sensitive topics for many kids and teens. It’s important to approach these subjects in ways that promote open, supportive conversations. Whether you’re discussing food choices or body image, clear communication and a curious attitude can make a big difference.

Here's how to navigate these topics in a supportive way.

Use Positive Language Around Food

The way we talk about food can influence how we feel about it. Labels like “good” and “bad,” “healthy” or “unhealthy,” might sound harmless, but they can lead to negative thinking patterns about food and eating.

Instead of grouping foods into “good” or “bad,” describe food using neutral and positive words and ask for your child’s thoughts about different eating experiences. For example, ask, “How was your sandwich today? I tried a new mustard,” or “How was it eating in the cafeteria today?” This kind of language keeps the conversation open and avoids making anyone feel judged or self-conscious about their choices. The questions help you know your child’s thoughts about different foods and different eating spaces.

Be Open, but Set Boundaries

Food choices are part of growing up and discovering independence. It's important for parents to be open to new things and let kids explore different foods. However, it’s also necessary to set clear boundaries when needed. If a teen wants to eat at a new restaurant, it’s okay to be flexible, but eating there every day might require a different conversation. Parents can ask, “What do you like about that place?” or discuss other food options to help your child increase the variety of the foods and places they will eat. 

Setting boundaries about things like diets can also help protect from harmful behaviors. Dieting is not something that is recommended for growing and developing children. Asking questions like “Why do you want to try this diet?” or “What do you hope the diet will change?” can open up a thoughtful discussion and help you know your child’s thoughts, feelings, and plans. 

Encourage Open Communication

Every family is unique, and communication can look different in every household. The most important thing is to make sure that kids feel comfortable talking about their thoughts, feelings, and experiences—especially when it comes to food and body image. Good communication makes it easier to notice when something’s wrong, like if a teen is feeling sad or has lost weight suddenly. It also makes it easier to have a conversation like, “Is everything okay?” Keeping the lines of communication open with trusted adults helps teens feel supported and understood.

Know the Difference Between Eating Disorders and Disordered Eating

It’s important to understand the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating to decide how urgently help is needed. Disordered eating refers to things like being very picky about food or avoiding certain foods, but it doesn’t necessarily cause major health or nutrition problems. Usually discussing these concerns at your child’s annual check-up works best.

An eating disorder, on the other hand, involves extreme behaviors like decreases in the food eaten, binge eating, getting rid of the food by vomiting, or being unable to eat enough variety of foods leading to serious physical and emotional health issues. If you or someone you know is experiencing signs like extreme weight changes, hair loss, dizziness, or other health problems related to eating, it’s important to reach out for support immediately.

By using positive language, setting boundaries, keeping communication open, and understanding the difference between eating disorders and disordered eating, everyone can help create a supportive, accepting environment for teens as they navigate food choices, body image, and their overall well-being. With openness and curiosity your child will feel comfortable talking about many different topics with you as they grow and develop into independent adults.